Do you have to help your parents who are in need?

Verified 12 December 2025 - Public Service / Directorate of Legal and Administrative Information (Prime Minister)

Yes, the children have theobligation d'help a parent or step-parent who is not not able to to ensure its basic needs. We're talking d'maintenance obligation. We present you the information to know.

The maintenance obligation is a help brought to a parent or to one step-parent which doesn't come to insure its basic needs (housing, food, care, current expenses...).

It is paid in the form of a child support or in nature (obligation to house, feed and maintain...).

The person claiming maintenance is maintenance creditor. The one who pours it is obligated maintenance or maintenance debtor.

The following people should help their parents in need:

  • Children, grandchildren, in respect of their father, mother or others ascendants in need
  • Sons-in-law, stepdaughters in respect of their in-laws in need. As a result of the obligations of marriage, a spouse must assist his or her spouse's parent in times of need. This obligation ceases upon the death of the affinity spouse and the children of the union.

Maintenance obligations are reciprocal : this means that the father, mother or others ascendants must also help their children and grandchildren in need. The same applies to in-laws with respect to their son-in-law and daughter-in-law in need.

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In the event of adoption, the maintenance obligation depends both on the type of adoption (single or full) and family ties (adoptive or biological).

The child admitted as State ward must not befood to his biological parents.

The maintenance creditor requesting the assistance must demonstrate that he is in need, that is to say that he cannot meet his basic needs (housing, food, care, clothing). Before to ask the judge, he may first make a request out of court.

Request out of court

Creditor and debtor offood may try to reach an amicable agreement together or by post by inviting the other party to reach an agreement, or through a family mediator.

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The agreement reached can be approved by the Jaf: titleContent to give it to him enforceability.

Approval of the agreement may be requested by letter to the judge.

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Application to the Family Court Judge

A person claiming maintenance may bring an action against Jaf: titleContent.

The request is made by assignment or using a form:

Application for Maintenance - Referral to the Family Court

The request must be sent by registered letter with acknowledgement of receipt or dropped off to the court of law.

The maintenance creditor may refer the matter to the Jaf of the court of his domicile or that of the maintenance debtor.

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Public health institutions can also take action to recover sums owed to their institutions (unpaid care or accommodation). Social welfare authorities may also act on their behalf or on behalf of the person receiving social assistance.

If there are several possible maintenance debtors, the maintenance creditor must first solicit his spouse if he is married, then his children.

The maintenance creditor is not obliged to initiate proceedings against all co-debtors. There is no hierarchy between a descendant and a son-in-law or daughter-in-law: they are similarly bound by the maintenance obligation.

The lawyer is not mandatory in this procedure.

If a party wishes to have a lawyer but does not have enough income, it can apply for legal aid.

The maintenance creditor must be:

  • Represented by his guardian if he is a major in guardianship
  • Assisted by its curator if it is a major in curatorship
  • Represented or assisted (depending on the scope of the tasks) by the authorized person in the case of a family empowerment.

In the context of the execution of a future protection mandate, the adult retains the possibility of making his application himself.

The amount of the maintenance obligation is set by the judge according to the needs of the creditor of food and debtor resources of food. It doesn't exist no scale.

The judge determines the maintenance obligation taking into account the situation of all the interested parties. That is why the maintenance creditor must prove he's in need and that it does not have sufficient resources to meet its essential expenses.

The judge shall take into account all the income and expenses of the debtor of food.

The income taken into account is as follows:

  • Income from work (salary, pension, unemployment benefit, social security allowance, etc.)
  • Social assistance (disabled adult allowance, housing allowance, RSA: titleContent...)
  • Capital income (interest from a financial investment, rental income, dividend, etc.).

The charges considered are as follows:

  • Family expenses (child, spouse or dependent partner, maintenance, compensatory benefit...)
  • Daily living expenses (housing, food, taxes, transport costs...)
  • Loans, debt ratios, etc.

Once this food contribution has been set, the maintenance debtor must be able to continue to support himself and those of the people living in his household.

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Income of spouse, partner of Civil partnerships: titleContent or the spouse of the support debtor are not added to his income, because his obligation is personal. The spouse's income is taken into account only if support is also claimed as a son-in-law or daughter-in-law.

The income of the Civil partnership partner or cohabiting partner may be taken into account to the extent where they reduce the burden on the maintenance debtor. For example, if the rent and current expenses (food, bills) are paid by the 2 partners or cohabiting partners. They have a disposable income more important than a person who alone assumes the payment of these charges.

As a general rule, the court determines the maintenance obligation in the form of a maintenance paid monthly.

However, it sometimes runs in kind, that is to say, by collecting the creditor of maintenance at home, by feeding and maintaining it. This is the case when the maintenance debtor justifies not being able to pay the maintenance obligation. This is also the case in the specific situation of a father or mother who offers to receive his or her adult child at home rather than pay child support.

The judge may discharge one or more maintenance debtors when they have insufficient resources or too large burdens to help their parent in need.

However, a maintenance debtor may also be exempted from the maintenance obligation for reasons other than his ability to pay: this exemption must be requested or may be automatic.

Application for exemption

The child whose the father or mother has seriously breached his obligations the family court judge (Jaf) may waive the maintenance obligation in respect of the child. It may be relieved in whole or in part of its obligation.

You can't ask to be dispensed in advance of this maintenance obligation. The request for exemption is made at the time when the maintenance debtor is requested as such, often in the context of accommodation in Ehpad: titleContent or in a retirement home or on the occasion of a application for social assistance.

To be dispensed, the maintenance debtor shall prove that the parent has seriously failed to fulfill his/her obligations towards him/her (abandonment, violence). He can prove this failure by producing a judgment, attestations, documents of social services...

Automatic dispensation

The child whose father or mother saw each other withdraw parental authority is automatically exempt from any maintenance obligations towards that parent, unless otherwise provided in the withdrawal judgment.

The child whose father or mother was convicted of a crime committed on him or on one of his ascendants, descendants, brothers or sisters is relieved of its maintenance obligation by the Jaf: titleContentunless the judge decides otherwise.

The child who was removed of his family environment by judicial decision for a period of at least 36 cumulative months and before its 18 Sans is also automatically exempt from helping his parents. This is also the case with the grandchild, in the context of an application of social assistance to accommodation (ASH) on behalf of one of his grandparents.

The parties can do call of the decision of the Jaf: titleContent.

The lawyer is mandatory.

The removal or revision of the maintenance obligation may be requested if the situation of the debtor or the creditor changes.

This is particularly the case in the following situations:

  • The income of the maintenance debtor decrease (e.g. unemployment) or its charges increase (e.g. birth of a child)
  • The situation of the creditor of food is improving
  • The situation family of creditor or debtor of food evolves (marriage, divorce).

The request for revision or deletion shall be made on free paper or using a form:

Application for Maintenance - Referral to the Family Court

The maintenance creditor must seize the court of which depends on its domicile or the court whose depends on the domicile of the maintenance debtor. The maintenance debtor must bring the matter before the court of depends on the domicile of the maintenance creditor.

If child support is not paid or partially paid by the maintenance debtor, the maintenance creditor may initiate one of the following procedures:

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The maintenance obligor who does not pay maintenance during more than 2 months the maintenance creditor commits the offense of abandonment of family.

The maintenance obligation shall cease in the event of death of maintenance creditor or debtor.

It may also be terminated by a decision of the Family Court Judge, following an application by a party, in the event of new circumstances. This is the case, for example, after a divorce or in cases of insolvency from whoever owes it.

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